Every single person on earth will experience failure and it doesn’t matter if it was because of decisions you made or because of external factors; how you come through it depends solely on you and your attitude (that’s right, the ball is still in your court). The key to a successful transition from failure to hope begins with 3 choices:
- Trust the process: you don ‘t have to know the next steps or how it is going to work out in order to move forward. Trust that good is around the corner and determine that you will outlive the rough patch.
- Choose to fully show up with a good attitude in all areas of life – no matter how bad you are feeling. Continue to consider the needs of others.
- Don’t play the victim card. Examine your beliefs about yourself: believing the worst about yourself will end up in a grand pity party (btw: no one wants to attend this party) Choose how you are going to present yourself and take personal responsibility to rewrite your story in the most positive light.
The challenge is not to numb the pain of failure, but to re-purpose your life: this time with the wisdom gained from the failure. The perspective you need is to look at what you have already done and at the same time picture what still needs to be done.
Our success oriented lifestyle can give false impressions about life and it always looks so easy when other people do it. But, the route to of a good life is fraught with hardship, struggle and failure. If you want to be a person of strength, courage and wisdom; you will have to endure and overcome the struggle.
“Of all the virtues we can learn, no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.”
—MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
Give, give and help others accomplish their goals, then volunteer. While you are doing these actions ask for what you need without playing the victim.